zomg!healthy relationship -- follow-up

No, nothing major has changed. Just thought I'd do this little exercise for fun.

Best friend has been reading Frog or Prince (I think that's the title) and doing the exercises within as part of her self-work on getting away from guys who are bad news for her. I'm very proud of her in this endeavour, and in her blogging endeavour because I think blogging personal stuff to the internet is one of the best ways of processing your own shit, instead of bottling it up. That's why I've been doing it for the past 6 years.

So. From Chapter 5: Frog Boot Camp, is this list of questions.

1. Can I tell him what I really feel-my deepest darkest secrets?
2. Can I forgive him when his actions make me really angry?
3. Are a lot of my needs being met by myself, friends and family?
4. Can I tell my best friend the good the bad and the ugly without her asking "what are you still doing with him?"
5. Can I list his two best and worst traits?
6. Can I accept his permanent frog warts?
7. Does he accept me for who I am?
8. Does he talk to me like my best friend does?

And if you answer yes to all of them -- healthy relationship. Yes to some -- pretty healthy relationship. Etc.

So. My completely honest, unflinching answers.

1. So far, yes. We're only a month in, however, and I haven't wanted to overwhelm him with the crazy. 

2. I have so far. I can't imagine him doing the very few things that will make me actually angry to the point where I make people cry and cower, convinced I'm going to kill them (I actually black out during these times, and I've been told they're really bad -- so don't make me that angry) -- I've only really been slightly irritated with him for a few things.  Again, probably too early to really tell, but so far -- he just doesn't do things that piss me off. And usually if someone is going to, that shows up fairly early. (Hello 2-week long relationships how are you doing.)

3. Yes. Absolutely. I'm not losing myself in him and I'm not going to let myself get lost in him. 

4. Yep.

5. Yes. Best trait: he's honest. Worst trait:  he's unmotivated (which is really just a nice way of saying "lazy"). Not a terribly horrible thing, honestly. Gets irritating though. 

6. Yes.

7. Yes.

8. Not exactly, seeing as different people have different speech patterns, and she and I have a different sort of relationship -- but I think this question is about respect, and yes. He does respect me. 

So, yeah. Looks like we're doing really well. He still has a few trials by fire to go through, and I'm sure I do too. But, you know, I think we're doing pretty good.